Mosaic in the Unitarian Universalist Church of Lexington Recently, I’ve had a client ask this exact question. Its made me wonder how many other clients didn't ask. Many times, as we are wrapping up a session, I will say to a client something along these lines: Be extra kind to yourself while you are processing this Give yourself extra self-compassion, this is really difficult Show yourself a little extra care and concern, you deserve to feel that And my clients don’t know w

This post contains spoilers, so if you haven't watch Project Hail Mary (PHM), you may not want to continue reading! For those of you who have watched this lovely film, read the book, or don't mind spoilers...thanks for reading! First of all, this movie is delightful. I look forward to reading the book. But this post isn't about PHM entirely, its about being dragged into some of the most powerful experiences of life. In the movie, Ryan Gosling's character, Ryland Grace, is rec

Before becoming a deconstructed adult during such unprecedented times, I probably thought hope was a trite platitude associated with a few bible verses and Easter Sunday. An idea that was tossed around without much heft or importance. All of my therapy career has been through challenging times. I attended grad school on the heels of a divorce and life change that shook my core ideas about what being an adult woman was. In grad school, during the election of Trumps first term,

Overhead shot of people working in a community garden. In the past few years, I have been stretching myself to decolonize my own therapeutic lens, my view of the world, and my place in this tumultuous world. The authors, podcast hosts, and speakers I have been learning from are in agreement: No one is coming to save us. We see community care and mutual aid playing out in Minneapolis in opposition of this administrations attack on American people. Like many other white people

We're talking about space...though not this kind. My husband and I have been going through it this year. After years of serving the refugee community in various positions, he was laid off and eventually let go when the Trump administration shut down almost all refugee resettlement in the US. We weren't wholly surprised, we just thought it might take a bit longer. He was excellent at his job and loved helping that population. It was heartbreaking for him to experience that los

Mosaic made of various small, smooth stones on a brick path. Internal Family Systems (IFS) or "parts" work is one of the newest trends in therapy work. Like most popular, new ideas, the modality promises to yield results towards healing and assist individuals in acting from their highest Self. IFS is the brainchild of Dick Schwartz who took the theory of Family Systems and internalized it on an individual level, treating the solo human as their own expansive system. These ide

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Do we get a choice? How do we turn our breaking moments, our broken feelings, into a life changing or life-affirming breakthrough? Is...

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Death Valley We humans are terrible at grief. For beings who cause so much destruction, we suck at mourning loss. We have whole...

It is hard to find hope right now, as I have reflected before. Because of the oppressive systems that rule our society, the world is on...

I don't like being uncomfortable. I know. Understatement, who wouldn't agree. Many of us who come from the privilege of being housed,...

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picture of clouds in the sky with tree silhouettes These are dark times in the world, seemingly especially the US. We are swiftly being...

If you have been paying attention to many healers, some therapists, and social justice activists/advocates, you'll hear the charge to...

Maeve Why is self-trust important? What is self-trust? Many clients come to me expressing a desire to be more confident, to increase...

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